I have never used my phone to take a selfie. Maybe I'm selfie-conscious, but in a time where anyone and everyone comments on what you put into the world, careful consideration seems prudent. Perhaps I am overly sensitive but seeing how the comments after posting a selfie inspired blogger Cassey Ho to create the video "The Perfect Body". https://www.youtube.com/watch?t=32&v=PsL7W-GHhJA. Or reading the comments posted to fitness trainer and blogger Sophie Kay's piece on how easy it is to spot fake before and after pics gives me pause. http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2015/06/17/fitness-trainer-fakes-fitspo-photo_n_7602304.html
Despite the positive message of accepting your unique body and working to make it healthy and strong, the comments are often incredibly unkind. These women were taken apart, piece by piece and I have to wonder what kind of person takes time out of their day to put so much negativity into the world? I realize that you take a risk when you put yourself out there and you may not always like what comes back but I'm surprised at how awful people can be from the comfort of their own home.
Of course I want to put my best self out there but I also want to actually be me. The industry I am in can invite close inspection and I know I am judged by my appearance. In spite of this I have tried to keep it real, refusing photoshop and relying on a little make-up and good lighting. I take the best pictures when I am relaxed or happy and that does not usually involve a professional photographer. We need to stop taking ourselves and each other apart, to inspect every flaw we think we have. In an eloquent letter published yesterday, Jennifer Anniston sums up the ridiculousness of image and judging. www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/for-the-record_us_57855586e4b03fc3ee4e626f
Yes, when you work in an industry where image plays a role you can expect to be evaluated on what you look like, but I like to think that substance will win over style. I have endeavored to put myself out there, even in the face of certain scrutiny because I know the true value of health is function over form. If we're lucky that comes in a package the majority finds appealing but more often than not, we don't fit into neat little boxes and the world is better for it. Striving to be your best self is always a good idea, confusing that with a warped ideal of perfect never will be. You may never see a selfie of me because I think it is far more important to be seen for who and what I really am.
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