There is a woman that walks her dog in my neighborhood and there's just something about her. She carries herself with confidence. She is a reasonably attractive woman with a nice figure, not stunningly beautiful or super fit, but she seems comfortable in her own skin and you can't help but notice. I wonder if it would be as noticeable if more women carried themselves that way, including me? It seems we are constantly focused on what we need to improve, fix or change rather than all of the wonderful qualities we possess. The truth is, we are all works in progress, we improve with practice. But the world we live in champions perfection, even though true perfection is often subjective and rarely attainable. We hear "practice makes perfect" but I believe practice makes better is a more accurate statement. Better is attainable and a worthy endeavor but sometimes it is important to consider your perspective.
In this great piece by Kelly Roberts, the notion that you have to look a certain way to be an athlete (or anything else for that matter) is challenged by what she is able to accomplish with her body www.outsideonline.com/2156246/dont-tell-me-what-strong-looks
I read the article above on Facebook and was pleasantly surprised to see supportive, positive comments. After the comments on Lady Gaga's body in her Super Bowl performance, I was hesitant to even look at comments. So many people had negative things to say about this incredible artist, it's no wonder the rest of us have trouble putting ourselves out there. Most of those comments were about her body, not her performance, or her ability, but what she looked like in her costume. I thought she looked fantastic, fit & fabulous as does Christie Brinkley on the cover of Sports Illustrated with her daughters. www.yahoo.com/celebrity/christie-brinkley-63-back-her-013240262.html The comments about her were snarky as well but seemed to come more from other women than men. Women that claimed she had the time and the money and anyone could look like that if they had those things. Does it matter how old she is, that she has time and money to exercise, that there is a possibility photo shop was used? She looks amazing, and aside from great genes (as evidenced by her children) she does the work to continue looking amazing, it is her practice.
Tearing another down will never make you feel better about yourself, so what can be done? Champion one another, celebrate the fact that we are in this together, that each of us has our own practice in life. I know how hard it can be to walk through the door, to show up and be seen. I love looking around a room full of women and men and seeing all different ages, bodies and abilities because it is what group fitness truly is to me: A group of individuals doing the best they can with what they have to work with in a group setting. A successful class is one that I managed to encourage, challenge and accommodate all of my participants, maybe with a dash of humor for good measure. I try to bring the same focus to one-on-one training too. I have spent a lot of years in a room full of mirrors and sometimes I have had to fake confidence but if you practice something long enough you get pretty good at it. Practice makes better and we are truly better when we practice together.